When
I said "I love you", things changed. I immediately
kicked into... "so how can I make sure she'll stick
around"? How ridiculous of me to go CLICK and begin
NOT being myself! Did I fear that just being me wasn't going
to be good
enough to keep her?
I
unconsciously started the process of making sure that love
stays, and in that mindset I invaribly set into motion a process
that would eventually leave only with peddles of what could
have been, scattered on the floor. All the emotions that took
place that were out of fear of losing the relationship...for
fear that it wouldn't bloom. Did I really believe
that I could make it bloom? The possessiveness, the controlling,
the accommodating, the games...did I really believe
that these things FED love?
As
with the rose, you & I are each called to create an environment
that FEEDS love not FORCES love.
What
FEEDS love?
Truth.
Appreciation. Accepting who they are. Interest in their well-being.
Willingness for it NOT to "work".
What
FORCES love?
Jealousy.
Judgment. Expectations. A need for it to "work".
Gosh the list goes on...we're experts on that side of it,
right?
Please
hear the parable of the rose. It holds a fundamental key
to love. It's a priceless metaphor that my God authored
to teach me. Observe how you are trying to make love open
for fear that it won't, and observe how those acts have
pushed away the very thing you've been trying to keep.
Become
a table-setter for miracles.
Let go of those things you have no control over. Let love
go so it will be free to stay.
