Begin
making conscious efforts to hear what you tell yourself. You're
always saying something, ya know. You're always commenting
to yourself about your environment and your relationship to
that environment. "He's better than me" or "I'll
never own a car like that".
As
innocent as they may sound, imagine telling them to your son
or daughter. Wouldn't you call that shaming? Same holds true
for yourself. Become a good steward of your own sense of self-worth.
Once
again it's all about awareness. We've been sleep-walking thru
this fear thing for so long that the damaging choices we make
just aren't so evident to us. I want to heighten your awareness
of the ways in which you keep yourself pinned to the mat with
shame.
What
do you tell yourself that you would Never tell your
precious 5 year old child. Remember, getting tuff with yourself
NEVER has to include shaming. Unfortunately too many of us were
taught
the opposite.
It's simply not so.
Try
this on for size:
See yourself for who you are. Not who your experiences
or your fears or hurts tell you that you are, but rather for
WHO YOU KNOW YOU ARE (your vision of YOU at your best). See
yourself as an off-spring of God. A product of a loving, living
God who creates a world of masterpieces. A God who made a tiny
snowflake so intricately perfect...how much more masterful He
surely made you!
See
yourself as a masterpiece of a Master. Now, begin to treat
yourself as such in word and action and thought. I'm telling
you...I am only a product of what I think about myself. As
part of your journey back
to you, begin polishing your conversation with yourself.
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