My
TRUTH and My OPINION are entirely different critters. They
show up in life pointing at two entirely different people.
My Opinion
points at YOU (it's my judgment of what you're doing or
saying). My Truth points at ME (it's my assessment
of what I'm experiencing or what I desire). Notice
on the chart how my opinions begin with "you" and
my truth statements begin with "I".
They each
have entirely different agendas. My opinion is offered up
with the intent to CHANGE
you or my situation. My truth is offered up for the sake
of expressing my experience
or desire (not tied to an outcome).
Friends,
this is an amazing microcosm of what takes place in relationships.
When "opinions" are dominant in conversation, then
manipulation over your partner is prevailant as well. This
is an extremely effective tool in turning your relationship
around by the way. And I just gave it to you! For Free! Way
to go Roberto!
Mercy
me, I've burned many bridges in my past with my "opinions".
What are opinions anyway? I mean, they're like belly buttons...everybody's
got one, they're all different, and they don't do a darn thing!
Far too
many times I took the pure and life-giving truth, then candy-coated
it or armed it with my ego-based attempts to control the outcome,
and ended up with far less than the intimacy I so desired.
It's
remarkable, the the shift I can create in how I'm received
when I shift my statement from "opinion" to "truth".
My opinion usually tells you how you
need to shape up so I can be happier. That's gone over
like a divorce atty at a bridal shower! It's rarely received
with love (because it's rarely delivered with love).
And that's
what I want you to do right now. Consider how you deliver
your messages to your partner. Are they usually in the form
of opinion? If so, I challenge you to consider how most opinions
are not delivered in love but rather in resistance. And that's
exactly what you keep getting in return...resistance!
We
create
what we get. Always.
Get clear on your excuse
for not telling the truth. Get clear on what you're Fearing.
Are you fearing their reaction? Are you fearing their impression
of you? Are you fearing appearing "wrong"? Look
for ways to practice TELLING THE TRUTH vs. TELLING YOUR OPINION.
Become a student
of the differences. And have the guts to speak your Truth.
I want you to move past the fears that keep
holding you back. And we can both make huge LEAPS by noticing
when we don't tell the truth, thereby allowing ourselves to
make new choices with clarity and love.
Notice how Light and Free you feel when you
can let go and tell the truth.
Start letting the truth...your truth...SET
YOU FREE
