This is
not a complicated deal! To be heard, simply start listen more!
Like a boomerang it
all comes back to you. The more you listen, the more they
want to listen to you. And as you may have noticed, the louder
and more wordy you get, the more they want to pack up their
lunch and go home!
Listening
is one of the most loving acts we can do. For me to listen
to you...really listen...is for me to give to you 100% of
my life in that moment. Of course, there are more than one
ways to listen, right? I'm talking about LISTENING TO UNDERSTAND.
My friend Rich likes to refer to it as "empathetic
listening".
The most
powerful sermon I've heard had 12 words.
The most
listened-to friend I have speaks quietly.
The one
I want advice from most is the one who volunteers the least
advice.
Once
again, you
create what you have. If you feel that you're not being
heard, rather than speaking louder or complaining about
not being heard, I want you to consider how you're creating
closed ears around you. Remember, this is not a fault-finding
mission but rather an attempt to take life by the horns
and start gettin' what you want. And we do that in quite
the opposite
manner than most of us have tried in our past.
Be
the change you want. Communication is LISTENING. The best
communicator I know is one who asks questions and then listens
to understand. Add LIFE to your love or to your friendships
or to your parenting. Become a student of the one next to
you. Have the guts to ask your partner the question you've
avoided asking: "Do you feel understood or loved?"
Whoa! When you zip it and listen to understand, you'll be
amazed at "how to do life" instructions will unfold
right in front of you! As you listen not only will your intimacy
with people around you rise significantly but you'll begin
to notice others wanting to listen to understand you.
"empathetic
listening".