When
I judge, I proclaim a "sentence". Judgment is dead
energy, leaving nothing more to explore or consider. When you've
slapped on the label of wrong or bad or guilty, there is no
lesson, no learning, no life. Just as on the bench, the gavel
comes down and it's "lights out".
Judgers
are the most miserable folks I know. They're busy cuttin' off
bridges and assigning fault, all fruitless attempts to just
be happier.
If
you have a former partner who cut you off and just won't talk
to you... they're gripped by their own world of judgment.
"You're
wrong."
"That's
just inappropriate."
"You
shouldn't be doing what you're doing."
"I'm
just not good enough."
"You
work too much."
"She's
an evil person."
"You
need to stop what you're doing."
"You're
lazy & unsuccessful."
My
passing judgment on you cuts off an open and honest discussion.
It cuts off any further possibilities. The truth is, judgment's
"finality" insures that the case won't be re-opened
for now and so then I'll hopefully never have to look at the
side of me I most fear. My judgment stems from my own sense
of insecurity with life. I have a need to be right or to validate
my belief, as I have a fear of being examined.
I've
noticed a strong correlation between JUDGMENT (continually assessing
others and one's self) and STRESS.
A judgment is a resistance to what it's judging. A refusal to
let it just BE without context to another. The judger is an
obsessive label-pinner. That's a very heavy spirit to carry
as it keeps you isolated from love.
I
want you to be happy and in love. So please take the time
to recognize which part of this page just pissed you off!
I'm here to tell you and me both...whatever upsets us in life
is, on some level, a truth that we're fighting to avoid.
Recognize
the judger in you. And, oh boy, I gotta say it...don't judge
yourself for judging! Recognize it, understand its origins,
and identify how it's keeping you from genuine intimacy with
folks around you. Everything you do, you do for benefit. And
so many of us judge in order to keep intimacy away! It's an
illusion!
It's not a benefit at all so stop buying into it. Relax and
look for opportunities to APPRECIATE
things and people for who and what they are, not for if they're
right or good or high-scoring.
