My believing that my JOY is in the car or in the house or in the relationship keeps me VICTIM to these things and literally sets up the illusions that I buy into. If the car rusts or the house burns down or the relationship goes away, then I'm suddenly LOST. And in my state of lost I keep searching in the same pasture for the cow that's still not there!

My greatest moments of joy in life were during the times that I experienced myself to my Fullest! Can you relate? A mistake is made when I attach that Joy that I felt to another person or thing. Ah, the Illusion begins as I believe that now I need her or it present with me in order to keep experiencing that joy.

Any moment of Fulfillment is a
function of IN HERE not of OUT THERE.

HUGE! Huge break thru here! When you get that your joy isn't found in the things out there, then you no longer have to manipulate them into your life in order to be happy.

Here are some common illusions that we buy into:

"I can't help the way I am"
That belief keeps you powerless to change. Sell that one!

"I can't live without him"
He never has and never will hold your happiness. Don't buy it!

"If I only had more money"
It's not there. Your happiness isn't found there. You think it is, but that belief is only keeping your attention OFF of here and now and the lessons and love that are right under your nose.

"I have to make sure she doesn't leave me"
You have no power to make her stay, and your belief that you do will be the very force that makes her leave.

"I can't show them that side of me"
A commonly used word in the language of illusion is CAN'T. This is the most disempowering of words. Always substitute "can't" with "choose not to". That will help you move from the land of powerless Illusions into creative reality.

"I'm being controlled"
Correction: You're playing the role of the "controlled". That's the only reason there's controlling going on...you choose to participate.

"I can't do any better than this"
And so be it. You created your imagined belief in order to give you permission to keep holding back. If you believe you can't, you can't. Trade that belief in quick! Ick!

"I'm waiting for Mr. Right"
You're not wanting to take responsibility for how you have kept love away. Your answer is not found in "the right one coming along"...it'll be in the right you coming out.

"When we get married then we'll be happy"
Any shift in circumstances has zero affect on your happiness. It may appear that it does for the moment. That's a feeling not a state.

I look across the sea of life. What I see are things that are Real, and things that are a Mirage. My awakening takes place as I recognize what's Real and what's not (self-constructed beliefs), and as I make choices based on what I know to be the truth.