Take
an honest inventory of yourself. This will
pay off!
What
are you ITCHIN' to have? Itch is a good thing!
Let's
talk LOVE. Do you want it or Need
it? Your "need" will push away any
healthy man or woman you bump into. Now, if
you're sitting there yelling "NO",
then you may want to stop and think of the
people that keep exiting your life.
Let's
talk FRIENDSHIP. Do you desire
friends or do you HAVE to have them around?
Healthy humanoids will smell the latter a
mile away.
My
friend, I want you to have the things you
desire. And my intent is to awaken you to
how you and I literally keep ourselves from
having them.
Here's
what happens in that place where I MUST have
this person in my life. I become "blindly
obsessed" with getting them. All rules
are called off as I use the art of lying,
cheating, maneuvering and whatever I must
to get them. What I GET is losing myself in
the process while eventually repelling them!
The
answer? Self
Love. Providing your own sense of wholeness
will negate having
to have someone else provide it for you. And
when you don't HAVE to have someone or something
in your life, you're then free to be yourself
with them as you naturally attract them into
your life by virtue of who you are. And by
the way, one of the keys to my partner and
me enjoying each other's company is directly
from this mindset that we don't HAVE to have
each other for our happiness. This allows
us to appreciate each other being there (vs.
expecting) and so the energy of love is pure
and very rich.
"But
I love to feel needed".
Respectfully,
HAVE YOUR HEAD EXAMINED! It sounds great in
songs but it's not where love lives and breathes.
Feeling desired? YES! Feeling needed? Hmm.
Whatever one may think that they "need"
from you for their happiness you can Never
provide to them anyway. And in the process
of attempting to only paving the way to resentment
and disillusionment. 
You
want a relationship? Then be OK with not
having one. Make peace with being single.
That's the key to having a thriving love!
I give my partner permission to go if she
wishes. I wish that she not, but such attitude
gives her the freedom to stay and WHOA DOES
THAT SET THE STAGE FOR LARGE LOVE!
Try
this...
Many
times you'll see things or people that you'll
Want in your life. Heck there's nothin' wrong
with that! Consider being willing to NOT have
them. Then you'll be able to approach them
without that darn suction sound! And of course,
you can only be OK with not having them when
you're OK with just having
yourself. And that, my friend, is life's
key.
