"I
can't live without you! I love everything
about you..."
Ah,
you gotta love the lyrics to those songs!
Whatever
I believe that I HAVE to have for my happiness...I'll
continually push it away.
Quite
a paradox, this notion that I chase
away what I have deemed necessary for
my joy. I personally have witnessed it kill
one dream after another, in love and in career,
in my own life and in others'.
My
“having to have” anything or anyone
in my life stems from a belief that I am whole
and complete only with them in my
life. And that belief is a direct product
of a void within myself that I’m desperately
trying to fill (most of this stuff is
unconscious so stay with me). And it
all shows itself in very repelling forms.
My unconscious fear that
my partner will going away if I don't make
sure that she stays, will literally push her
away!
Listen….ya
hear that? That huge suction sound. That’s
the sound of an empty hole. Of neediness,
of without-ness. That’s the sound of
someone near you seeking to suck the very
life out of you! Quick, run for cover!
If
you GOTTA HAVE IT
then you’ll Never have it.
Happens
all the time with love. "She's Needy".
"He sucks the life out of you."
"She's too smothering."
It's all simply one person HAVING TO HAVE
the other, and in that process repelling them.
that
my partner will going away if I don't make
sure that she stays, will literally push her
away! 