Socrates
said it long ago...
"Good nor Bad exist, except in
my mind".
Our obsession wi ht keeping
"bad" away and inviting "good"
in keeps us in a tizzy! While we recognize
people and events as good and bad, life
does not as it continues its consistent
& methodical delivery of its perfect
messages to us. My insistence on labeling
things in my path as good or bad keeps my
ears stuffed with peanut butter as I miss
their lessons!
If
I lose my job and then call it BAD, I set
the stage for resentment and anger and blame.
I open myself up for feelings of not-good-enough.
My creativity & confidence take a hit.
All these emotions can be non-productive
dead ends. What if? What if I needed
to lose the job? What if...just what if
my tiny vision cannot see past my nose when
it comes to what will teach me & serve
me best?
If
she does or says something that I don't
like and I call it BAD, I'm making way
for criticism and fault finding and eventual
isolation from her. My judgment of people
in my life shuts me off from them and
limits possibilities.
What
if I fail to follow thru or to succeed and
so I do a little self-bashing?"I
need to...I should have...why didn't I..."
My self-shaming
only weakens my own esteem and keeps me
diffused from moving forward & taking
risks. Self-shaming is a major killer of
forward movement.
How
many relationships have you ended and then
called such departure a BAD thing? Then
the sour taste of failure or rejection or
dashed dreams creep in and keep us from
ever wanting to go there again. BUT YET
THAT'S WHERE WE NEED TO GO AGAIN...How else
will we learn and grow?
Are
these things bad? Or are they simply what
they 
are?
Are they something we should have avoided
or were they a very valuable part of our
journey? Do they bring toxin or do they
bring a chance to define ourselves?
Judging
keeps me from savoring what IS. It keeps
me from being present with life and with
people and with myself!
What
about your past?
do you judge any part of your past as
BAD? My friend, I promise you, such judgment
in some way keeps you from zooming forward.
Retire from judging your past as being
BAD (that's only to protect you from facing
the part you may have played) and EMBRACE
it! That's right...Embrace it. Your past
and everything about it was key in bringing
you to WHO
YOU ARE today.
Our
finite minds don't easily comprehend the
Big Picture, the Master's Plan. It only
makes sense that the long-haul journey of
life must be filled with "contrasts"
to teach us and help us understand. Contrasts,
by the way, are how I define who I am, yet
my calling something bad or wrong cuts off
the message.
When
I call it or them bad, it keeps me from
fully engaging in the BIG PLAN.
I
believe the most confining form of judgment
is when I inflict it upon myself. It steals
life from under my nose!
Many
of us adopted as children that, we just
weren't good enough or thin enough or smart
enough. And we've been running from that
ever since! We have literally built our
very lives around AVOIDING
A LIE (something we adopted long
ago as true but has no basis of truth).
Amazing,
how much of our very self-worth we've based
on a judgment from childhood...ON something
that doesn't even EXIST!
Friends,
adopt a different approach toward circumstances
and people. Be slower to call them bad or
wrong. Nothing is BAD. It just IS WHAT IT
IS. And your thinking that it's bad only
keeps you limited.
The
sky is blue. Pigs don't bark. And people
are exactly who and where they are...and
that's not BAD! And OUR CALLING IT BAD
keeps us STUCK! Whew! OK. I feel better,
thanks.
Once
again, life's flow is all about LETTING
GO. It's about ALLOWING. And in that place
of Allowing, life Flows, Miracles
are given Birth, and your life moves from
a "controlled safety zone of limits
& predictability" to one filled
with zeal and passion
and possibilities baby! You gotta love it!
