Back
in Houston we’re learning to do “friendships
on Purpose”. It merits my telling
you about it in hopes that you can gain
from what we’re all hoppin' about.
Jumpin’
right in…WHAT IS YOUR ROLE AS MY FRIEND?
“To
be there when I need you”
“To support you”
“To hang with”
These
are a few of the more common answers I hear.
They all have one thing in common: Passivity.
Although I’m certainly grateful for
your offer to be there when I need you!
As
your friend I want to HELP BRING OUT YOUR BRILLIANCE!
I
choose to be Active in your life as my friend.
What does that look like or how does that
compare to merely “being there when
you need me”?
I
encourage you to do your friendships and
all relationships more ON PURPOSE. Become
a student of WHO THEY ARE. Ask
them! “Who are you? What do you
value most in life? What do you love? What
is it that you want? What’s your resolve
for having it?”
A
friendship on purpose won’t shame
you when you fail. There's no male or
female bashing or backbiting. No. Friendship
on purpose, in any situation or problem,
Actively engages in: 1. Reminding you of what’s
important to you;
2. Reminding you of what you want in life;
3. Asking if you're getting what you want;
4. Asking how you're creating
what it is that you want right now.
Look
at the POWER here. We need Purposeful Friends!
The power I feel from my Active friends
is quite moving. I feel their presence on
my team, helping me stay inline with
myself.
Assess
your relationships. Begin to add PUNCH to
‘em by incorporating these simple
tools. Have a Meaning or Purpose to your
friendship other than a movie buddy or a
loneliness-buster. Move away from the dead-end
REACTIVE
weight of should’s and should not’s
and live in the PRO-ACTIVE land of potential
and power.
