
The
little boy who was told he was stupid spends
his adult life running from this notion
as he over-achieves in school and when engaging
in conversation insists that he's never
wrong.
The
Boogieman that we run from is shouting to
us about our own inadequacies and driving
us to prove to the world and to ourselves
that we're OK (or not OK). And so rather
than my life being a journey to Experience
it becomes a race to ACHIEVE. And in that
process the experience of life passes us
by.
This
silent phenomenon shows up like a big dawg
in
every crevice of life, especially in our
relationships. We carry our hidden fear
of "not good enough" into the
path of another human being and everything
coasts along just fine until...until...until
something is said or done that reminds us
of the thing we're running from, the thing
we fear most in life, OUR NOT-OK-NESS. And
then the fit hits the shan and the relationship
spins into its downward spiral!
Go
do a li'l reading on your Boogieman
and consider what it is that you're running
from. I want you to gain power and presence
in life and in love and your being
OK with yourself is critical to having
it all.
For
now begin recognizing how often your efforts
are little more than your just trying
to feel OK about yourself, or trying to
avoid things that would make you feel
not OK. I suggest to you that
your entire life is designed around your
feeling "good enough" while
steering clear of people and things who
remind you that you're not good
enough.
Moving
thru this and finding your own sense of
OK-ness will allow you to experience life
more fully rather than holding back and
only experiencing those parts that you choose
to not push
away or run
away from.