finding joy

 

 

 

 

 

 

Here's what helps me keep my ladder leaned against the right tree.

Whenever I feel an upset AT someone or at something, I now make a different choice than I did before. There was a time when I reacted to what "they" did and my conversation became all about THEM or IT. It can be whittled down to "they got my nanner, and they wont give it to me!". My being consumed or even focused on OUT THERE on the heals of an upset was a sure sign that I was looking for "out there" to do what I needed for it to do to make me  happy.

Heck, every time I got upset at my wife, it was just as if I was shouting to her...

"WHEN ARE YOU GONNA START DOING
LIFE MY WAY SO I CAN BE HAPPY!"

She didn't have my joy. Never did. And my continually trying to get it from her kept me from enjoying & loving her!

THIS IS HUGE!

Nowadays I choose to feel the upset and take charge of my placement of focus & attention. I no longer make my upset (or my joy) about her. Whoa, what a huge weight lifted off love!

"Hey now, that's why we get into a relationship...to be happy!"

Right! And there's a world of difference between experiencing your own joy in the relationship vs. trying to extract your joy from your partner.

My friend. Your joy is inside you. It's been there all along. You've been totin' it around with you like a backpack you can't see!

Where you ask? Where inside you is it found? For now have faith and know that it's there. Underneath all the stuff you've piled around it. Let's gently and gradually remove the stuff. Layer by layer. We need not be in any hurry. Heck we have years of layers to peal! You've been very busy building walls around you to keep others from seeing in and, yes, even from keeping yourself from seeing you.

For now trust me...the journey on the way back to you is a very exciting one full of great views and plenty of rest stops.

Your joy is reclaimed on this traverse back to you, as you remember who you are and what you love. As you return to integrity. As you once again resume the self-imposed permission & freedom to BE YOU. And in that state of BEING YOU you'll fall madly in love with the New (old) you and madly in love with the Master who created you in such brilliant fashion.

And then you'll notice that life around you begins looking like you always wanted it to look back when you were trying to force it.