When
I fight life I'm only trying to be happy.
Here's the good news: The moment I stop
the fight is the moment I'll set the wheels
into motion that will bring the experience
of happiness I was trying to get by fighting!
You see, it's then that I'll then
be out of life's way so it can flow on my
behalf.
"You
gotta struggle to get what you want."
To
get what I want I've gotta fight. If I don't
like what they're doing or who they are,
I must resist them. If I don't like the
way I am or my life is, I must resist and
struggle against it.
The
harder I try the behinder I get. That's
the way it seems at times with my struggle
and effort.
It
took my thick head a few times before I
got the message loud 'n clear…I just
can’t beat life. I can’t make
people be someone they’re not.
I can’t make myself be someone I’m
not. I can’t make love work or make
things go where they're not ready to go.
But oh, you can't say I didn't try! I tried!
The closest I came was making my dog Bob
"shake". But even he
didn't mind me at times!
Life's
a dance, not a wrestling match my friend!
I
just can’t force life and everything
in it to go where it does not want to go!
And my continued efforts only bring me more
struggling while life passes me by. So how
can I get what I want!
In
short, life simply won't always fit into
my plan, and my refusal to accept
such is what keeps me resisting it! And
the more I resist, the more life persists
on bringing me the very things I don't want!
Holy cow what a tail chaser!
What
was I thinking? All those fights, all those
wrestling matches I had with my wife, with
my career, with my dog (poor Bob!). And
even when I thought I won...I didn't! I
now understand:
I
think back over the years with love. Golly,
those times I showed annoyance at her lack
of motivation, at her depression, at her
choice of TV show, at the choice of drawers
she kept her socks in... I CREATED MY OWN
HELL!
My "disagreeing" with how she
did her life (oh boy, isn't that just
a pack o' poop to disagree with how another
human being does their life!) seemed
to only make her do it more!
Notice
how people beat themselves (and others)
up over who and where they are in life?
Starting from a place of self-shaming
sets us up for a very long struggle. So
what if? What if you view who you are and
where you've been as NOT
BAD, but rather as just a part of the
journey thus far? What if you gave yourself
(and others) permission to be exactly where
you are just because that's where you are?
Holy
cow would that have a Monsterous effect
on what you do with it all! Leaving my own
judgment
of people and things completely out of it
turns the table on how I view & respond
to them.
