We
fear facing that part of ourselves that
we don't want to face...the side we fear
isn't good enough. And so we literally design
our life's course of activities around NOT
facing it. And such choices keep us from
living full-out as we severely limit where
we can travel on our life journey.
I
want you to gain
clear vision to the blatant ways fear
has gripped you (we've become "asleep"
to the things we would rather not see!).
This is an important place to begin...telling
yourself the truth. It's not a bad
thing that you're holding back in life,
it's just what you're doing. And your willingness
to recognize it is the start of moving past
it.
What's
the cure for fear? Not sure there's a cure.
It seems to be a viable part of life. Fear
can actually be a benefit as it heightens
our senses and sharpens our focus. Pay attention
to the two sides of fear: It can be a catalyst
for your change or it can be a road block.
See fear as a "caution sign" rather
than a "stop sign". My fear is
here to get my attention.
The
antidote for fear's grip comes in facing
the thing you fear. If we fear our shadow,
we'll find that as we turn and face it and
shine a light on it, it goes away!
Because
my fear is, at its base, my avoidance of
facing the side of me that's just not up
to snuff, I notice the more OK I am with
exactly who I am, the less bothered I am
by any judgment of my OK-ness. If
you know that you're OK, then
you simply won't buy into assertions or
notions. And the paradox
of it is this...
Struggling
to overcome fear is like leaning your ladder
against the wrong darn tree! As hard as
you climb, it's still gonna bring you pears
not bananas. The answers lie not in anything
you can do "out there". It's all
about "in here". Become your own
best friend. Becoming OK with you
loosens the grip that your fear has on you.
