Everything around you is PUSHING OUT. Ever notice that? THink of it as a clear and constant message from your Living God.

 

 

"I can't talk about that!"

"It's my problem, I'll figure it out myself."

"I'm just not an expressive person."

Consider what happens when a living thing doesn't push out or express or give off. Consider what happens when the snake doesn't shed its skin or our lungs don't expel the carbon dioxide or our skin doesn't sweat or we cannot pass our food intake?

Toxins. Implosion. Stagnation. Constipation. Isolation. Ever feel emotional constipation or stagnation?

From our human waste system to the shedding of leaves. From the push and pull of the ocean's tide to the opening of a young rosebud. Everything that's living EXPRESSES.

More and more of our illnesses & diseases as adults are being directly or indirectly linked to a lifetime of REPRESSION. Dis-ease is what we feel when we're stressed. Stress takes place when I resist letting go or pushing out or expressing.

When's the last time you expressed?

• Had a good cry
• Given thanks to God
• Showed your Appreciation for someone else
• Spoke your truth
• Specifically acknowledged another for his/her talents or contributions
• Shared a fear with your loved one
• Talked about things that matter
• Got angry
• Revealed your humanness
• Admitted you're inadequate
• Asked for what you want
• Verbalized your love

Expressing is my LETTING GO of something that I'm clinching onto. My fear-based clinching is what breeds Stress, and that keeps me from having the things in life I want. Holding back tears, hiding my true self, "not going there", holding back my real feelings, stuffing my anger. It's all my attempt to simply feel "in control".

The life of control is counter to the life of faith. Let go! Express. Look for ways to express this very day. Say "hello" to a stranger. Pick up the phone right now and telling a friend you appreciate them. Tell a long-held secret. Have a good cry. punch a pillow. Let yourself verbalize a magnificent sunset. All of it will bring you an instant feel-good. Make it a habit and begin watching the effects of expression ease stress while resulting internal healing makes way for joy.

 

 

 

 

Oh boy! This is where it gets juicy! I remember the very moment the lights went on in my barn. I felt power like I never had before.

It was her fault! I mean, if she would have been more loving and more available to me, the darn marriage wouldn't have gone down south! Right? Umm...well...

Man, how many times have I heard those famous last words of from powerless people... "If she'd have only...then we could have..."

So that's what I believed for a long time. And, mercy, were those days full of nothing but frustration and wheel-spinning. See, as long as it was her fault, or as long as I assigned her even a smidgen of fault...I had no power to change my future.

Did you get that?

And as long as I kept hooking onto her what happened, I had no need or desire to look at the part I played in the direction of that marriage. And so I stayed miserable, without growth and...lonely.

"But but but...it WAS her fault!"

"My husband WAS a jerk"!

"I couldn't HELP what happened"!

OK. So, let's just say you're right. Whatever it is that you believe about your past (and present and future), you're right. OK. So now what happens? Your life becomes a living proof that backs up your belief. But the trade off is (those gosh-darn trade-off's), you never grow and you then keep attracting the same kinds of folks and problems that lead you into the same song thirtieth verse! Ever notice that? Or have you been too busy blaming?   :o)~

Back to my marriage. I felt a Huge lift of relief the moment I said, "I quit"! I was tired of blaming her. I was tired of HER HAVING THE REIGNS TO MY LIFE. I mean, I was hindering one person only...me. So I began asking myself the powerful question that brought me to this new place..."HOW DID I PUSH LOVE AWAY"?

Whoa! When I got serious about that and quit playing the small game of blame (takes guts to own your stuff without regard to her stuff), I then began to see myself for who I really was. Heck, I wasn't a bad guy. This isn't about self shaming and pinning fault. No no no! I recognized that I was just a guy who resisted her and created the mess I got. I "got" that my choices to blame were only bringing me what I didn't want...isolation & NO answers.

Then guess what! My cleared vision allowed me to create something different tomorrow!

On the other side of all that (here and now), I'm free. Yeehaw! Free from my own unaware attempts to make everyone else provide my joy to me. It's the darndest thing, how much of our lives we're spending simply trying to find our JOY in folks around us.

Get rid of the questions that begin with WHY.

"Why did this happen to me?"

"Why did he do that?"

"Why can't I ever get a break or do it right?"

SHIFT your questions to start with HOW.

"How can I make a difference?"

"How can I turn this around or make this work?"

"How can I make this into what I need?"

You create you. Every second of every day. You. Awaken to that and begin dialoguing with yourself about it.

 

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