As you
begin to let go, watch stress dissipate and
life flow while others become attracted to
your willingness to let them be themselves.
It’s quite attractive really.
But be careful though...self-love looks might
good on you and folks around you just may
be drawn to you like wild geese to a field
of sunflowers!
ARE
YOU BEING CONTROLLED?
As a side
note, let me talk to those who are CONTROLLED
for a moment. So I want
you controllers to go get a bologna sandwich
for a second...
OK. If
you're reading this section going, "yeah
yeah yeah that's him...that's my husband or
my girlfriend", then I have good
news for you. HE'S (or she's or it's) NOT
your problem. You wanna know why controllers
control? Because they CAN. And that's your
department...the "can" part. You've
been keeping your beloved controller controlling!
If they've been robbing the bank, YOU'VE been
holding the darn bag for 'em!
Get off
the belly-achin' about their controlling you
and GET BUSY owning WHY you're letting them
do so. That's where your power is!
That's your growth point. That's
where your answers are...in the WHY.
And that's what will move you beyond this
victim's state.
Mercy
me, for me to have such little love and honor
and respect for myself as to ALLOW someone else
to dishonor and disrespect me...the issue is
squarely with ME. So run take an inner survey
on your
own self love.
Here's
a neighborly warning for you: Your answer
isn't in going out and finding another partner.
Surely you've noticed the pattern by now.
You'll simply take your own low self esteem
out on the town and you'll attract another
controller and the madness will start all
over again. Argh!
Break
free from your own controlling hell. Here's
how.
First,
OBSERVE. That's right. Just
BE. Don't get your undies all in a wad
about fixin' it just yet! In that place
of just BEING your hearing is heightened
and God's message is more readily heard.
Become
a student of yourself as you begin noticing
how many situations and people you're trying
to feel in control of. Notice how often
you're getting mad at folks. Heck, no matter
how good your argument is let's face it...your
anger at them is usually your wanting them
to start doing life your way!
Look
for ways to LET GO and LET things and people
be what and who they are. Get out of the
way of life my friend! It knows what it's
doing! It's been at this thing much longer
than you have! Give yourself permission
to feel NOT being in control. You're not
gonna believe how sweet the smell is in
that land of not HAVING to know.
want
you controllers to go get a bologna sandwich
for a second...
