I
can tell you many ways that HAVEN'T worked for me
when it comes to changing a belief. Mantra, reading
books, weekend seminars and writing self-affirming
sticky notes all over my bathroom mirror. While these
things have probably helped, none have never brought
the permanent shifts I want.
They
all come from "trying to change" something
which of course comes from a presumption that "somethin'
aint right". Have you noticed that permanent change
seems to come not from a place of struggle and effort
(RESISTANCE) but rather from a place of resolve and
empowerment?
I've
had much success with this simple recipe:
-
Recognize
that my core belief was written by a diaper totin'
rug rat who didn't know any better!
-
I
change my belief by introducing myself to NEW
experiences that counter that belief, and with
time literally shift that core belief.
Awareness
is key here. Awareness that my belief is my reality,
and also that it has nothing to do with truth. My belief
that I'm not successful has nothing to do with anything!
Am I successful? Many would say that I am. Others may
say not. Who's right? Who's wrong? When will we ever
know?
"But
the evidence of my lack of success is everywhere around
me!"
Is
it? So what came first? The belief or the evidence?
I give you Roberto's guarantee that the BELIEF came
first. And it's your BELIEF that keeps the evidence
in place. That's what we do...continually bring about
evidence in our surroundings to support our inner beliefs.
And your struggle to change the evidence will keep you
spinning your wheels as your core belief will keep prevailing
and returning you back to the level of what you KNOW
is true in your mind. That's why "motivation"
is temporal.
Why
do you think so many "lucky winners" of the
lotto move from a trailer home to a mansion...and eventually
back to a trailer home? We always, always live out what
we internally believe to be true about ourselves.
What
do you believe about yourself that's negative debilitating?
You may not be aware of it, but I promise you it shows
up all the time every day. It shows up in your choices
of what to NOT do. Whatever the belief is about yourself...it's
only your judgment.
That's all! Become keenly aware of this. Become aware
that it began back when they told you that you were
too short to go on that roller coaster! You eventually
outgrew your pant size and your childish habits, but
you never outgrew or changed that core belief about
yourself.
So
what do you do with it? Now that you're clear that your
belief is only that...your judgment of something about
you that's probably not accurate in the eyes of anyone
outside of you...how do we bring it up to date?
INTRODUCE
YOURSELF TO NEW EVIDENCE!
Consider
this. Have you ever met someone and formed an immediate
impression of them, only to find out later that they're
not like that at all? Happens to me all the time. Some
folks think I'm goofy when they meet me. OK OK, so maybe
that part of it is right. But their mind carries
it into, "he has no depth to him" (my wacky
disposition thows 'em I'm thinkin'). Then I'll always
hear later from those same folks, "I never
knew you were like this...I had you pegged for someone
different"!
What
happened? Their belief about me shifted and so did their
attitude toward me. HOW? They were introduced to more
evidence. To another side of me that countered what
they believed. Their belief was disproved. And so their
impression of me 
changed
as did consequently their level of engagement with me.
You
can't change a belief about yourself by sittin' at home
eatin' popcorn & reading a book or browsing this
page and going "Oh wow! Ah-hah! Now I get it"!
You don't! You don't "get it" until you experience
it. That's when it descends from our head to your heart.
A
friend of mine was "unsuccessful with women",
so he believed. And the more he sat at home disengaged
from facing women the more his belief was validated.
Facing the fear diminished its grip bit by bit as he
chose to GET UP AND GET OUT. His new encounters brought
to him new data that slowly formed a new opinion of
himself. In that process miracles took place and he
became free from the grip of his limiting belief.
ACTION
INVITES MIRACLES!
Do your part. God will be faithful with His.
