You certainly don’t dress your TV up in a skirt! It’s a TV! And you don’t try and change the sky into red…it’s BLUE! Pigs don’t bark and your partner isn’t everything you WANT them to be. So get over yourself! Every time you've been angry at her or him, you're simply wanting them to change. Why? So you can feel happier! Your ladder's leaned against the wrong tree my friend. Your happiness will NEVER be found in changing your partner. At the time you think it will. Trust me...I tried and it's not there! Such attempts WILL push away the love you're after while keeping you on an endless search for your joy.

PIG ACTION: Look for ways of Applauding who your partner is. Notice where you’re critical and “get” that it’s YOU who needs the shift not them. There's nothing wrong with your partner! Let the thing you want to change in your partner be your TEACHER. You don’t like her big nose? Learn the art of Acceptance. His outgoing personality makes you jealous? Learn the gift of self-love that'll vanish jealousy. You want him to change jobs or change hats or change the way he says “arithmetic”? Be clear, it’s not him or her that needs the shift. It’s you. Get busy LETTING THEM BE THEM. In all areas of your life make peace with WHAT IS and then enjoy living from a mind set of love and faith vs. irritation and stress. Now go take that silly skirt off your TV!

It sets you free when you let it. The ultimate truth is YOU BEING WHO YOU ARE (no holding back the real you). Anything less than that…holding out, not sharing your love, your fears, your dreams, your concerns, your desires, your pet ferret…is living a lie. Tell your truth. Do you not speak up for fear of reaction? That’s not their fault, it’s your choice. Do you not tell them the truth for fear of hurting their feelings? That’s not their fault, it’s your choice. The degree you live out your truth will bring that degree of intimacy, healing and passion.

TRUTH ACTION: Pick up the phone and tell your partner a truth, something you’ve been holding back. Say, “I’m sorry for holding out on you” and commit to a higher level of truth. I promise (this is an official Roberto-guarantee!) letting the truth prevail will introduce you to passion & intimacy they write about in those paperback novels.

What a breakthrough for me! Finally, I no longer had to be upset because she’s different from me or because she couldn’t see life my way. Yeehaw! Go get a good book on personality tests. Ya’ll both take it. Check out those scores and go, “Holy cow! You’re not me”! I now love CELEBRATING HER DIFFERENCES! It brings love to a new ALIVENESS! It's the red pepper in my chili. It adds Zing! Imagine having a stew made with just carrots. Hello! It would be a bland stew now wouldn't it? Your partner is not you. Thank you God! Let this simple truth crank your attitude from frustration to fascination as you literally leave the world of eye-rolling criticism and appreciate Everything about him/her.

MATER ACTION: Throw “WRONG” out the window of your home right now. Go on! Your need to be "right" is requiring that you make your partner wrong. We each just have a different opinion and besides...we'll never decide on who's scorekeeper anyway! Tell your partner what you LOVE about them. And anything that you resist about them, know that the work to be done is with your own resistance. Relax and laugh and celebrate the things you don't understand. It's actually kinda fun! It's actually kinda fun!

 
Can you believe it? Some folks are actually trying to carry on a love relationship with someone whom they don't fully trust! Umm. Ever try making a float with grapefruit juice and vanilla ice cream? Ick! Can LOVE & MISTRUST co-exist? I think not! So your choice is clear. Either end the relationship or LET GO & TRUST. Am I making this thing too simple? You bet I am...it's that simple! Trusting is easy (letting go). Mistrusting takes alotta work and leaves you with ugly frown lines!

TRUST ACTION : Simply, Trust! That breeds trustworthiness whereas Mistrusting will only bring about the outcome you fear. Look at Mistrust as negative prayer that will most likely be answered.

 

CLICK HERE but be home in time for supper! Selfish people make Better Lovers Whatever you HAVE to have, you'll NEVER have Pushing it away are you? It'll be back! Whatever you Resist in life Persists Be Naked. They like that! Sloppy, juicy PASSION! Blame squeezes Glue all over my shoes BE HAPPY dammit! You want to Change it? Gotta give it a kiss first! Controllers and the prison they build Feeling Lost? Go here. Turn right. YOU alone Created You Forgive them. Then you can finally take that ankle weight off! Be YOU, not that other you That's Good! No wait, that's Bad! Or is it good? No... Which YOU will you choose to be today? Wake up & smell the Coffee! "Out There" aint against ya...it's Fer ya! Umm. That was your Opinion. Now what's your Truth? Hey hey hey! Give that UPSET back right now. It's not yours! Holy cow! Are you living BACKWARDS? What I fear, I make happen because I fear it! I just can't seem to get Motivated! I keep pushing away my teacher Human Doings? Or Human Beings? How to snag a Woman! Faith. It's the absence of peanut butter? When will you be done huntin' Nanners? Ever noticed that, wherever you go...there you are? Don't do it! Don't! Don't shoot yourself in your foot...again! It's time. It's time to kill d'boogieman The one missing piece to Love Shame on me! The amazing story of the Rose Set yourself free....Trust Life is sooo unfair! Parenting On Purpose Friends that ROCK! Whatever you believe....you're RIGHT! BE the change you want...life's a boomerang! KISS what you wanna change! Life's a darn BOOMERANG! Changing old beliefs What is, IS, and that's what IS! Down? Go give somebody your shirt Expression Heals Have you looked here for your answer? Now where did I put that dang JOY? Cut your own chains...FORGIVE Are you Holding Back on life? No way! Is that really what I think it is? Gavel or Love? Can't have both Ahh, the Unclogged Life! 2 ears, 1 mouth...take the hint! Who do you see in your mirror? My past keeps haunting me! Navels & Opinions. Spinning your wheels? Remember you? Stressed? For all you FIXERS out there Rob, 1 on 1 Take Rob home

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